Obergefell Fallout: Two daddies and no mommy

FamilyAmericanFlagOpinion:  The destruction of the American family is more likely a cause than a consequence of the gay-rights movement. But what began with easy divorce and widespread cohabitation may be brought to total meltdown with same-sex “marriage” and the idea that gender is “fluid.”

Government schools have already been indoctrinating children in the “new normal” with books like Heather Has Two Mommies.

Radical cultural revolution hides behind corruption of the language. The word “parent,” for example, didn’t used to require the adjective “biological.” In biology, each of the two parents contributes half of their offspring’s DNA. It was the parental surrogates that needed an adjective, such as “adoptive” or “foster.”

FamilyTwoMomsBiologically, two mothers is an absurdity (although modern science is trying to create a hybrid mother out of one woman’s cell nucleus transplanted into another woman’s cytoplasm). But having no daddy in the home is tragically common. And in 2012, 40.7 percent of all American births, and 72.2 percent of births to non-Hispanic blacks occurred out of wedlock.

One purpose of matrimony is to establish paternity, although even with illegitimacy and divorce, the identity of the baby’s father is usually known and recorded.

But with modern fertility treatments, especially in the context of same-sex liaisons, the baby’s daddy may be an anonymous sperm donor, picked from a catalog. And the child may never even know who her mother is.

What happens now that “love has won”? Boys with same-sex attractions can contemplate courtship, a hearts-and-flowers wedding ceremony, and a family. The child’s birth certificate might have entries for “parent 1” and “parent 2” instead of “mother” and “father.”

BabyMomSmilingBut somewhere there’s a woman who carried and nourished Heather for 9 months. Very likely Heather is her child, but perhaps not in the days of egg “donations” to help pay bills. Except for medical personnel, the woman was alone when the seed was planted. There was no husband or father to share the excitement of the baby’s first movements. It is unlikely that “parent 1” or “parent 2” sat with her as she labored. And then the baby was gone. The mother or surrogate collected a paycheck, but she’ll never see the dance recital or get a card on Mother’s Day. Where is the love for her?

And where is the maternal love she might have given the baby? And the love from the doting maternal grandparents and aunts and uncles, and the love the child might have given to them? Daddy 2 may give her a juice box when she is sad, like in the Broadway show Spelling Bee, but is that the same as the tie mothers and fathers have to their own flesh and blood?

Half of the child’s ancestry is obliterated, and many of her siblings and half-siblings will be unknown. She may have only one known blood tie, to one member of a same-sex couple. Beyond that, she is an atomized element in the Matrix. Her mother or father was a vendor, and she is a commodity.

It’s a big problem for educators pretending that nothing has really changed. The Bible of course must be removed from the curriculum and even the library. There’s far too much begetting in there, and the question of who begets whom is treated as supremely important. And what to do with world literature from the beginning of recorded history, where characters are men or women, who have a mother and a father and complicated family relations spanning generations? What of the names, like the Scandinavian Kristin Lavransdatter (daughter of Lavran), or the Hebrew “ben” for “son of,” or Russian middle names like Ivanovich for a son or Glebovna for a daughter, derived from the father’s first name?

GayCoupleFirstAdoptUSChildren raised by same-sex “parents” cannot be shielded from knowledge of their loss without alienating their generation from its cultural heritage as well as biological reality. There are no old books about two mommies or two daddies.

It’s a brave new world, where children are given a Social Security number rather than a patronymic at birth. “Mother” might even become an obscenity, as in Aldous Huxley’s novel. And love? Will that be what everybody has to feel for Orwell’s Big Brother?

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Dr. Jane Orient

Dr. Jane Orient

About the author: Jane M. Orient obtained her undergraduate degrees in chemistry and mathematics from the University of Arizona in Tucson, and her M.D. from Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons in 1974. She completed an internal medicine residency at Parkland Memorial Hospital and University of Arizona Affiliated Hospitals and then became an Instructor at the University of Arizona College of Medicine and a staff physician at the Tucson Veterans Administration Hospital. She has been in solo private practice since 1981 and has served as Executive Director of the Association of American Physicians and Surgeons (AAPS) since 1989. She is currently president of Doctors for Disaster Preparedness.

Since 1988, she has been chairman of the Public Health Committee of the Pima County (Arizona) Medical Society. She is the author of YOUR Doctor Is Not In: Healthy Skepticism about National Healthcare, and the second through fourth editions of Sapira’s Art and Science of Bedside Diagnosis, published by Lippincott, Williams & Wilkins. She authored books for schoolchildren, and Professor Klugimkopf’s Spelling Method, published by Robinson Books, and coauthored two novels published as Kindle Professor Klugimkopf’s Old-Fashioned English Grammar books, Neomorts and Moonshine, More than 100 of her papers have been published in the scientific and popular literature on a variety of subjects including risk assessment, natural and technological hazards and nonhazards, and medical economics and ethics. She is the editor of AAPS News, the Doctors for Disaster Preparedness Newsletter, and Civil Defense Perspectives, and is the managing editor of the Journal of American Physicians and Surgeons.